AMIDST THE TEARS….
At this time, you may be feeling a loss so insurmountable and overwhelming that you can’t imagine how you’re going to survive, how you’re going to go on without your loved one.
How is it possible that you’re in this place? How did it happen? And, why?
Many questions with few answers right now. You’re in a place of grief and a space of not knowing what is ahead for you. Grief immobilizes. It holds you in a place you not only don’t want to be, but many times feel as though you can’t move beyond. Its enormity has such power to keep you in its grip that you’re blinded in a fog of despair, unable to see your way out. Unknowing, fear, sadness and loneliness keep you in that vortex of grief, suspended in pain from your loss.
How do you move from this point of overwhelming loss? How do you move beyond your pain to peace? Finding your way from this point of loss through your grief ahead may seem an impossible task. There are no maps for you; there is only your knowing that can be found amidst the tears.
It may be a solo journey for you now, but you’re not really alone. Your loved one’s presence is around you…reach out to draw comfort and sustenance from it. Reach out for the strength and courage to face each morning, each evening, and the moments between.
Be still in these moments of grief as you are passing through them. . . . don’t rush. There are feelings and emotions that need to be acknowledged and experienced now. . .be still and listen to your heart.
Honor your loved one who has moved across the threshold to another place, and find comfort in the joys shared over your years together. Remember your shared life…remember your shared love. By reliving fond memories, you may help transform your grief into peace. Someone once said that fond memories make warm companions…a truth indeed.
As your tears of grief pour out, feel your emotions, and honor yourself as well as your loved one. Allow yourself to reach out to those around you and let them share in your grieving. Let them show their care and concern for you at this time. Receive their gifts of comfort graciously as you would receive a warm embrace.
During this time you may find that it takes a great deal of courage and inner strength to just get out of bed and put your feet on the floor each morning. Remember that each step you take is helping you to heal the emotional pain you are now experiencing.
Trust your inner voice to lead you on your journey through your grief…you know the answers to the questions, you simply need to be still and listen…listen.
Amidst the tears is healing for your heart.
Amidst the tears is cleansing for your pain.
Amidst the tears lies your doorway—push beyond your seeming limits to the new possibilities that await you.
Reach out and open the door to your new day of honor and loving remembrance for your loved one.
Open the door to your new day of healing and hope that lies amidst the tears.
Sharon Clark
