An Epidemic of Loss
April 1, 2010
Is there an epidemic of “loss” in our society today—is it the “forgotten” illness afflicting millions? How many suffering from grief & loss actually receive any tools for treatment or find support to help?
Good questions…there seems to be so little discussed or written about loss in proportion to the suffering…few resources dedicated to it….why is that? Is it because death or loss is uncomfortable not only for those who are experiencing it, but also uncomfortable to those who aren’t? Is it because we just assume that someone who is feeling grief or loss will simply “get over it”…that it will just take care of itself….after all, “time heals all wounds” or so we’re left to be comforted with. Well, grief is not like the common cold wherein we just tough it out a few days and it disappears; grief is chronic, and time does not magically erase the pain.
Just as with any other human emotion, grief ripples out into our lives, into our society in concentric circles…the pain of loss, confusion of what to do, the anger with no outlet, the helplessness of our inability to have affected the outcome. All these negative emotions related to grief spill over into the daily lives of those grieving and touch their family, their friends, their coworkers, and their community.
Yet grief is probably one of the most misunderstood and least discussed topics in our society—we are a grief-illiterate nation. Not only does grief leave its indelible mark on those who are feeling their loss, but it also touches everyone around them. Which leads to the question: WHY as a society aren’t we doing more to offer resources and support to those grieving? As noted earlier, grief is “uncomfortable”, and we don’t want to think about it; but, we’re ALL going to experience it since we ALL lose loved ones….all of us will die, and all of us will grieve. It’s the common denominator of living…and loving.
So, instead of ignoring the inevitability of it, let’s ENCOURAGE meaningful dialogue; let’s PROVIDE resources; let’s OFFER tools to help people cope with their grief. And, yes, grieving is painful, but let’s not ignore it. Let’s find ways to get through our grief together in order to become “loss survivors”!
Sharon Clark
Promote Awareness…Advocacy…Aid.
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