Grief is many times a new emotion for us. It’s one that we experience in connection with loss, and the deepest feelings are those associated with death. The final blow…the one thing we can’t control nor change.
Since it’s such an unfamiliar emotion, we rarely have any built-in coping skills in addressing or handling it. And, it seems that grief appears instantly, swiftly and is unrelenting–leaving us unable to breathe much less able to wrap our minds around how to cope with it.
The logical mind has few defenses against grief—it is so insidious and all-consuming that many times all we can do is make our best effort to hold on and ride its tumultuous waves. It’s a journey few are prepared for, and one that provides even fewer tools and aids for the travels.
Even those of us who have walked the path before feel ill-prepared; for although we’ve been through the journey, it’s an unfamiliar terrain each time. One that is unyielding and unwelcome while conjuring up the struggles with our previous losses and compounding the difficulty. We don’t overcome grief—at best we struggle through it; for really the only way out, is through.
Given that we rarely have the built-in coping skills to support our grieving process, we need to actively search out ways that will help us help ourselves. There is no “right” way to grieve, there is only our way.
Consider The Grief Interlude SeriesTM set of guided meditation CD’s that offers uplifting comforting messages and provides a brief respite from grieving.
Sharon Clark
www.griefinterlude.com
